How I Lost Focus on Fitness and Got It Back

Fitness is fun.  It can be.  Honest!  But there was a time when I couldn't seem to find the fun in it.  Actually, for the last four years I've faltered.  There have been times when I've gone for long walks with my husband nearly every night and hit 10,000 steps--sometimes more--daily but weight training fell by the wayside.  Then both fell off pretty much completely except for occasional hikes with my husband or walks with friends.  The reasons?  Here's what I think happened.

Got Certified:  I enjoyed fitness so much that I decided to get certified as a personal trainer myself.  I loved the NASM course.  It challenged me.  There was a good bit of anatomy and physiology in the course work, and some chemistry, none of which I had taken before.  I had to work my butt off, and I loved it.  My trainer encouraged me and quizzed me.  Others at the gym were supportive as well.  I passed the test on the first try.  I was thrilled.  Then it came to applying for trainer jobs and...nothing.  Well, not nothing exactly.  I did get a couple interviews.  But I didn't even apply until months after I passed my test because I wanted to wait until after we got back from visiting my mom.  What was that all about?  My brain function was a tad low at the time.  That's the only reason I can think of for why I'd wait so long to apply.  And it may have cost me a job.  I knew a training manager who was enthusiastic and I was pretty sure he'd at least give me a chance to prove myself as a trainer.  Well, by the time I applied he had moved on to different position in another city.  I never got the chance to find out for sure.  I got frustrated.  I had a well-respected certification but no one would hire me.  Was I too old?  Was it because I didn't have experience?  Was it because I walked funny?  Or was I too chunky?  I didn't know.

Trainers Left:  One by one, the trainers who worked at the gym when I first joined left.  I didn't click as well with the new crew.  Some were okay, and all my trainers were decent over the years, but that first crew just couldn't be beat.  Every one of them were friendly and supportive.  I felt at home at the gym when they were  working there.  I felt like I belonged.  But when they left, I got so I was less confident in my abilities, and I no longer felt at home at the gym.  Workouts suffered.  I stopped training with a trainer.  I didn't have any close friends there and knew only a few people by name.  Contract troubles cropped up as well. It all contributed to my decision to stop going to the gym altogether after a 5-year membership.  

Menopause Hit:  When menopause hit, hall hell broke loose.  If it was edible, I ate it.  I could tell myself that it wasn't good for me or that I shouldn't eat so much, but I kept on eating anyway.  My motivation tanked so I stopped exercising for the most part.  I got a bunch of equipment that I could use at home to exercise, thinking that would motivate me to get going again, but I didn't use it much.  My energy level was at rock bottom.  I started gaining the weight back that I'd lost through all that hard work.  And I was furious with myself for doing it.   

Work Increased:  Good things started happening in regards to work around the time I left the gym.  I found myself with three jobs online, all related to fitness and nutrition, including one working for that training manager I spoke about earlier who I thought may have hired me if given the chance.  Well, my hunch was right after all.  :-)    Wow!  I was psyched, but I also was sitting most of the day as everything I did involved computer work.  Since I enjoyed the work, I would sit there for hours researching, writing, answering people's questions, etc.  This inactivity just exacerbated the problem.  But I still loved the work and that I was making more money than I had in quite some time.  Considering my husband had been switched to part-time during this period, my increased work was welcome by us both.  I just hated that I was so inactive and didn't have as much time to exercise.  The thought of exercise just brought me down because I couldn't figure out how I was going to fit it into my schedule.  This made me anxious, which made me eat more.  I find it amazing that I didn't gain 100 lbs. during this time. 

Busy Social Life:  Around the time I started faltering a bit fitness-wise, my husband and I started volunteering--a lot.  We helped out at area animal shelters, charity events, and sporting events.  We had a blast doing it, and most of the time it involved physical movement, so that was great.  But it left little time to actually do a full blown tough workout. We also met more people through our volunteer experiences, so that widened our social circle.  We have more friends now than we've ever had, I think.  It's great.  We get together for football-watch parties, birthdays, holidays, walking, community events.  It's fun.  But it means also that I've had to totally re-work my life.  I used to spend most of my time alone so I just did what I needed to do, whenever.  Well, now with all sorts of commitments, my way of doing things had to change.  How people with a full-time job, friends, community obligations, children and grandchildren do it is beyond me.  I've got it pretty easy in comparison, working at home, but I still find it hard to fit all the responsibilities of life in.  I welcome the challenge, but it did cause workouts to fall by the wayside.  I'm working on that.

Death in the Family:  When my husband's mother passed away late last year, everything kind of stopped.  The nearly daily walks, weekend hikes, volunteering.  We stopped moving, it seemed.  Of course, death is something that has to be worked through.  We need to take the time to mourn and heal.  I understood that.  He needs to take time to explore emotions, reminisce, and work through the stages of grief.  He's doing well, but we still aren't back to volunteering.  It makes sense, though.  I read once that you can't help others until you help yourself through your own issues, troubles, feeling.  This is our time to heal.  There will be plenty of opportunities to be the helper again, in time.  

The Time is Now:  I started back at the gym at the beginning of the year.  I'm working with a trainer again.  I can't say that my progress has been as significant as it was 7 years ago when I first stepped into the gym, but I'm regaining my strength and then some.  For example, when I left the gym I could shoulder press 20-lb. dumbbells, and now 5 months back I'm close to surpassing that personal record.  I used to spend most days of the week at the gym and my workouts took about 2 hours.  I don't have that kind of time anymore.  But I know I don't have to work out for hours each day to be fit.  Everything adds up.  I have learned to fit in fitness where I can.  Weight loss is so hard during menopause, so I'm not going to freak out about that either.  I rarely weigh myself anymore.  As long as I'm moving, exercising, eating healthy, and trying not to eat everything in sight, I'll be satisfied.

Does this sound familiar?  I understand life getting in the way of fitness, believe me.  But it doesn't have to erect a total blockade between you and your fitness routine.  Don't freak out over fitness.  That will only make things worse.  Plan little bouts of fitness in between work and other tasks.  Do as much moving at work as possible.  At least it's something.  Realize you're doing what you can.  You can't put your life on hold for fitness, but you also shouldn't put fitness on hold because of life either.  It's important to find a balance.  And make fitness fun, not a chore.  Think of how good you'll feel when your clothes become looser and your step a little lighter.  It's worth it.  

Let me know what you have done to fit in fitness.  Email me at iwrite41@yahoo.com.  I'd love to hear from you.  Take  care.

Choosing a Different Life vs. Being Satisfied and How it Relates to Fitness

I saw the quote above the other day.  On the whole, it makes sense.  We tend to get stressed out about work, school, money, our bodies, health, being in style and so on, sometimes to the point of sickness.  We are so busy we often don't have time for friends, family, downtime.  It's not worth all that.  In that case, I say, yes chill out.  Tone down the stress level a bit by finding a balance, seeing where you can make little changes, and slicing some "fat" out of your day to make it more manageable.  

Choosing a different life vs. being satisfied with what you have.  

Different Life:  On the plus side, a different life or lifestyle can recharge your batteries.  It also can present new and exciting challenges and experiences.  You may be able to meet new people, be introduced to cultures different from your own, and learn something new.  All good things, for sure.  But there's a minus side too.  If you decide to pick up stakes, move far away, and start over, it could cost you a dear sum of money as well as heartache and headaches when you have to say goodbye to close friends and family and everything familiar.  It can also be intimidating, moving to a new town, starting a new job, making new friends.  And lonely, too, as you struggle to make those friends in your new surroundings while realizing as time goes by that you've become distant in more ways than one with the folks back home.  You're on the outside looking in in both places.  That can be scary, too.

Being Satisfied:  The good thing about being satisfied is that you don't have to deal with all the upheaval that comes with change.  It's comfortable, safe.  It's sometimes easier to settle.  It also forces you to appreciate what you have and enjoy the simple life.  But being satisfied can also be limiting.  You may live your life in your little corner of the world, sheltered from anything different or challenging, missing out on what's going on "out there."  You may run the risk of becoming stagnant, unfulfilled, bored.

How  it relates to fitness

Is being satisfied with your current fitness level really healthy? If you're obese or overweight you could be increasing your risk for developing health problems such as coronary heart disease, type 2 diabetes and stroke. If you're underweight you also could be at risk for certain health problems such as anemia, compromised immunity, and osteoporosis.  Is it worth the risk just to stay where you are?  Wouldn't it be better to tackle the hard but rewarding work that's involved in living fit and healthy?  Only you can answer that.

A different lifestyle could be just what you need to improve your health and mood.  So, while you shouldn't degrade yourself for being overweight/obese or underweight, you really need to evaluate how your current life is and if you're happy and healthy that way.  If not, then you need to take steps to change, including getting a complete physical exam and nutrition consultation a from qualified professionals.  You may also ask your doctor for exercise recommendations, any limitations you need to be aware of, and if you could benefit from working with an exercise specialist.

Changing your lifestyle doesn't have to be sudden, expensive, or limiting/depriving.  Pick exercises/activities you enjoy or would like to try.  Start slow.  Shoot for 150 minutes of moderate exercise per week.  Examples of moderate exercise is brisk walking, dancing, and gardening.  Your heart rate increases but you can still talk comfortably while doing the activity.  Break it up into 30-minute bouts throughout the week.  If that still seems like too much, break it down further to three 10-minute bouts throughout each day that you exercise (preferably most days of the week).  As for food, gradually replace less nutritious foods such as candy, soda-pop, pizza, fatty meats, highly processed foods, and simple carbs with healthier choices such as fruits and vegetables, lean protein, nuts, low/no-fat items, and whole grains.  You can still enjoy your favorite less healthy foods; just eat them occasionally instead of all the time.  If you are trying to gain weight, consult with a registered dietitian or health care provider.  If you are a parent and suspect that your child has an eating disorder, it's very important that you contact your child's physician for advice.

So, yes, be satisfied with yourself, your habits, your job, your surroundings and so on if they are truly fulfilling.  But don't be afraid to change if you feel as if you are stuck in a rut, bored or going down an unhealthy path.  Do what feels right in your gut.

Do you prefer to stay where you are or are you ready for a change?  Let me know via email or in the comments below.  Thanks!  Have a great weekend!

Let Fitness Help You Cope with Crises

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Hey there.  I hope you're having a good week.  I want to talk about coping with crises today.  Whether you're dealing with job loss, a death in the family, a divorce, a chronic illness, or lots of little nit-picky nuisances, fitness can help. 

Sure, you'll need some down time to deal with whatever troubles are going on in your life, but try to get back into some sort of healthy sleep, exercise and eating routine as soon as you can.  They can provide a combination of much needed rest, stress relief and healthy nutrition that you body and mind will need to get through the tough times ahead.

Schedule exercise, sleep, and nutritious meals just like you would work, job interviews, school, meetings with lawyers or doctors, and other responsibilities, depending on your particular situation.  Pace yourself.  Find a routine that works for you and stick with it. 

Seek out help from those you are close to in the fitness community as well as medical professionals, friends, family and neighbors.  You'll need that support unit to bounce ideas off of, talk things out with, seek trusted professional information from, and receive comfort and security from during this time.  Don't be afraid to reach out.  There are many people available and willing to help.  Let them.  For example, if a friend asks you to go for a walk or run with her, try it.  Just a short one at first.  No one expects you to jump into a marathon at a time like this.  Just get out, get some fresh air, decompress a bit.  In some cases, having an ambitious goal can help, though.  So maybe you'd benefit from training for a marathon.  Everyone handles crises differently.  Go with your gut.  You'll know what's right for you. 

Has fitness helped you get through a difficult situation in your life?  Please share your experiences with me (whatever you feel comfortable sharing) either via email (iwrite41@yahoo.com) or in the comments below.  I'm looking forward to hearing from you.  Take  care.

About Trainers

Hi all.  After my workout with my current trainer yesterday I got to thinking about all the trainers I've had over the past 7 years.  

The first one was perfect for me.  Tough but flexible.  I have a long medical history (spina bifida) and I needed a trainer who would make me work hard, but within my abilities.  He was spot on.   I actually cried when he said he was leaving after about a year and a half of working with him.  I still talk to him occasionally at the gym when he's there to work out.  My next trainer was totally opposite.  He treated me like I was fragile.  I'm NOT fragile.  I may have certain limitations as far as flexibility and balance go, but that doesn't mean trainers aren't able to kick my butt.  I hardly even broke a sweat when I worked with him.  Huge disappointment.  I only worked with him a short time before I switched again.  He wasn't too happy, but I didn't care.  I was paying for personal training, not to be treated like a cripple.

Well, the next trainer was, again, the total opposite.  He kicked my butt but good and I loved it.  I had a good sweat going within the first 2 minutes of the session!  I loved working with him.  It was when I was training with him that I decided to get my personal training certification.  He took time to quiz me on various topics, which I appreciated, even if some of those quizzes  took place while he was kicking my butt during our sessions.  Seriously, I had a blast.  And I passed my exam, too.  :-)  That's got to be one of the biggest thrills of my life.  I was bummed when I found out this trainer, too, was leaving.  

All the trainers after that were okay, but just not quite right.  They either worked me too easy, didn't show up on time or at all, or seemed more interested in training athletes.  They were professional and kind, no question.  But they didn't seem to be as into the sessions.  Or I just didn't feel as comfortable with them, except maybe one who used to count my reps in Chinese.  He was tough, fair, and funny.  A good combination.  

One trainer was okay, pleasant, and tough, but seemed to key on athletes.  He left after training me a short time. I've seen him now and then, but we haven't spoken. Ah well.  It's no big deal.  I just didn't click with him as much as I did with others.

Anyway, I decided to call it quits at the gym in September 2012.  I wasn't getting anywhere, I wasn't satisfied with the training, I was still stewing over my workout folder with two year's worth of workouts disappearing, I had endless contract and double-billing problems, I had hit menopause a couple years earlier and my mind and body were not anywhere near in sync.  I had no will power, no energy..I was tired of working out.  And I admit that I was none too pleased that I had applied for a trainer position three times and hadn't gotten so much as an interview, yet new trainers came and went all the time. (When I went in one day to update my application, the new training manager found it at the bottom of the pile.  Well, at least they hadn't pitched it.  The former management was supportive of me and encouraged me to apply, but there was a management change at the same time I first applied.) 

I got equipment so I could work out at home.  But there wasn't enough space, the room temperature was too difficult to control, and I missed the energy of the gym.  I had gained back weight, had intense cravings, and was scared that if I didn't do something soon, I'd weigh more than I did the first time I started working out 7 years before--and be on a very bad path heading into my fifties.  

So, after about a year and a half away, I went back--to the same gym.  As miffed as I was over some issues, I still liked the convenient location, the set up, and the price.  It was doable.  I had a talk with the management about the fact that if I experienced anymore BS, I was out the door and would never come back, no matter how convenient and economical the gym was.  They have been nothing but courteous and professional towards me.  So far, so good.  I like my current trainer.  He says hello to me each time I go to the gym and asks me about my workouts whether we have a session that day or not. He was understanding from the beginning that I wanted to take it easy.  I especially was nervous since I had hurt my shoulder recently (for the third time, at least). How I hurt it this time, I didn't know.  Well, after one session of mostly physical-therapy-type exercises on my shoulders, I had no pain whatsoever.  Yep, he's a keeper!  I'm feeling stronger every day, and upping weight consistently now that I've got my confidence back.  And I'm working out 4-5 days a week again.  I'm loving it.  

All these trainers have helped shape me as a trainer.  I've learned from each of they what to do and what not to do.  I make clients work, but I'm sensitive to their health issues and exercise 
preferences.  I'm down to earth, no ego, no attitude.  I'm in business to help people feel better, healthier, fitter.  And, of course, I'm all for helping to make fitness fun.  

When looking into working with a trainer, decide what type of personality with jive best with yours, whether you want to work with a male or female, which trainer can best work around your schedule, and who can help you best toward your goals.  It's a good idea to work with one trainer for a bit, then switch to another, and another until you find the one you feel most comfortable with.  You're paying good money for personal training.  You are the boss.  You need to feel you're getting your money's worth. 

I'd love to hear your feedback.  What type of trainer do you like the most?  Or do you prefer to work out alone or with friends?  Feel free to email me at iwrite41@yahoo.com, or leave a comment below.  Also, to get email notices when a new post is published, enter your email in the space provided and click Submit.  Thanks!  Hope to hear from you.  Take care.
   

Ease into a Healthy Lifestyle

Life is a balancing act

Happy Friday everyone!  I hope you have plans to stay active this weekend.  Or maybe you still aren't convinced that an active, healthy lifestyle is doable in your situation.

You hear all these stories about people living at the gym, making fitness a lifestyle.  Meanwhile, you're swamped with responsibilities, managing health issues, working long hours, taking care of your family, and so on.  When will you ever fit in a workout?  How can you possibly afford healthy food?

Sound familiar?  Well, it doesn't have to be like that.  You don't have to live at the gym.  You don't even have go to a gym.  You can work out at home, outside, with a friend, on your own, in a group, or, yes, at the gym.  Pick something fun.  Walk the dog, garden, play tag with the kids, swim, job, hike, bike, play tennis.  Whatever activity you enjoy doing or would like to take a crack at, do it.  It doesn't have to cost a cent.  It just depends on what you want to do.  

Give yourself 30 minutes a day to exercise.  That's the equivalent of one sit-com.  If you can give up one sitcom a day (or record it to watch later), you will have enough time to get your workout in.  If that still seems too hard, break your exercise up into three 10-minute bouts throughout the day.  Take a walk outside or down the hall, walk up and down the stairs a few times, do some stretches or jumping jacks.  Anything to get your blood flowing and your heart pumping.  That doesn't sound so hard, does it?

It just takes a little effort to get into the groove; make exercise a habit.  Make a point to include little bouts of exercise each day.  Set a timer or enter a reminder on your phone or daily planner.  Do whatever works to help you make exercise a habit.  Over time, you may very well notice that you have more energy, feel better, sleep better, and many other benefits, and that can help motivate you to keep exercising.

Same goes for the lifestyle change.  It doesn't have to happen overnight.  Make a couple changes here and there.  If you smoke, attempt to quit.  If you have trouble doing it on your own, seek out help from your doctor or a support group.  If you drink alcohol on a regular basis, try cutting out one drink per week at first.  If you're a night owl, try going to bed a half hour early one night a week.  If the thought of eating vegetables makes you turn green, start slowly.  Just add one new veggie and see how it goes.  Find fun ways to prepare it online.  Do that with fruits, lean meats, whole grains and healthier fats as well.  Look for sales on healthy items.  Cut back on designer coffees and junk food, putting that money toward healthier food items.  Ease into it.  Experiment with different recipes.  Make it fun.  If you find that you don't like fish, try turkey.  If you don't like one vegetable, try another.  There are oodles of them out there to choose from.  Add herbs and spices to jazz up these new foods instead of loading them with fat, salt and sugar. 

Working out and adopting a healthy lifestyle don't have to be difficult.  Take your time.  Adopt a positive attitude.  Be patient.  Think of it as an adventure.  You'll get there.

Keeping Up with Your Exercise During Wintry Weather

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Hey there, folks.  I hope you had a good weekend.  Lots of places are snowy right now, so it might be hard for you to get out and about to exercise.  But you can make a snowman or snow fort, have a snowball fight and the like to burn calories.  Once the roads clear out, or even beforehand if you have some land, you can go skiing, skating, snowshoeing, and sledding right out the back door.  

Where I live is sunny and quite mild in comparison to the areas of the country being hit by snowstorms, so my husband and I did some yard work over the weekend.  We put some muscle into trimming trees and bushes for a few hours in the afternoon.  It felt so nice to be out in the fresh air.  It was still a bit chilly, but we worked up a bit of a sweat during the clean up.  

I'm anxious for the days to get even longer so we can go for walks later in the day.  By the time we finish work, there isn't much daylight left, and I don't like to walk in the dark.  Especially not when it's chilly.

Whatever the climate or weather conditions, find something active to do.  Don't wait for the perfect conditions for a particular activity like running, walking, skiing or snowboarding.  Do something else in the meantime instead of hanging out on the couch watching TV.   If you're snowed in, walk in place, use the treadmill that's gathering dust in the basement, dance around the house, play charades...anything that gets your heart pumping.  If you can safely navigate the roads, hit the slopes, hiking trails, or the gym.  The important things is to keep moving, while also staying safe.

Take care out there!  Feel free to sign up for email updates and also visit my website Making Fitness Fun for all sorts of information on fitness.  Have fun!